4 Point Saturday?

Hey, friends.

Each Friday,  I send out an exclusive email about 4 awesome things (aka points) I’ve experienced during the week and would like to share. Well, I had a crazy busy week and so I’m dropping a 4 Point Saturday on you. A day late, but not a point short.

My intention with these 4 points is to provide you with perspective, inspiration, useful information and hopefully some laughs.

So without further ado, here is your 4 Point Friday Saturday and Thank You for Reading!

Popular social media post this week:

Everyone loves a heartfelt gift and family heirlooms. Click here.

Deep Thoughts by Coach P (not Jack Handy, lol):

Need a New Years Resolution Solution? Here is what I’m going with and I’m pumped about it! One Word.

  • Sidenotes: My personal One Word is LIGHT. Here is the Scripture God placed on my heart to go with it- Matthew 5:14-16. Every member of my immediate family is taking part in this One Word journey as well as some of my close friends (Iron sharpens Iron). Actually, my wrestling team chose One Word and it’s a guiding mantra for the team. The word the team chose is VISION. All of the wrestlers and coaches are using the hashtag #Vision on our social media posts.

Quote of the Week that has me Inspired:

Fresh Start to the New Year- Action and Tip:

This is what I’m doing in order to get a Fresh Start Physically this New Year. Click Here

By the way, did you know that it’s easier to add new positive habits when you stack them together? For example, maybe your starting a morning exercise program. Well, when you get up in the morning, start making the bed before you go workout. Now you have added two new positive habits that flow well together. Stacking habits is a great practice because it works!

God Bless,

Coach P

#Light #Vision


Coach P’s Top Books of 2016

For Your Success in 2017

I am an avid reader and wholeheartedly believe it’s one of the best ways to achieve personal growth. Well, that is if you are reading the right books and putting what you learn into action.

Growing up, my parents couldn’t get me to read anything. I would read whatever the teacher assigned (maybe) and that’s it. During my college years, I did a little extra reading on the side, but I was definitely not all in.

About 5 or 6 years ago I decided that in order to grow as a leader and into the person God was calling me to become I’d have to start reading. If you are going to grow then you must sow. Sowing the seeds of knowledge and wisdom found in books written by people that are successful (especially in the areas you want to succeed) is a great way to compress time and learn more than you have time to experience on your own.

If you are a reader, awesome. If you are not a reader, then don’t lose hope just yet. You can download books via Audible and listen to them in the car or around the house. I love to do this as I drive to and from work or on long road trips. Another option is to start reading and take it slow. Dedicate 15 minutes per day to reading a book and then increase as your reading muscles begin to grow.

Below is a list of the best books I read in 2016 and a brief description of each book. I encourage you to pick a couple of them and then get your read on in 2017! These are not in a particular order as they are all good in their own way.

  • The Carpenter– This is possibly my favorite book by Jon Gordon, which is a strong statement as his books are all on point. In The Carpenter, we meet a master builder who helps people reach their fullest potential. As is the case with all Jon Gordon books, there are multiple life lessons and success strategies built into a story that will capture both your mind and heart. I plan to read this book again soon.
  • Bridge to Haven– I don’t read much fiction(although I should read more for my imagination,) but I’m glad I decided to read this selection after seeing a trusted friend post about it on social media. Bridge to Haven is one of those books that plays like a movie in your mind. I found myself reading it over my lunch break, before bed, and about anytime I could sneak a few minutes to read. As you read this book you’ll laugh, cry, get angry, and be filled with inspiration. Yep, Bridge to Haven has it all.
  • Chop Wood Carry Water– The author, Joshua Medcalf, is one of my favorites as his books always rock. Joshua self-published this book and it has sold over 25,000 copies to date. Chop Wood Carry Water takes many of the lessons from Medcalf’s company Train to Be Clutch and embeds them into this short but powerful narrative. Here’s what I love about this book the most… My 10 year old daughter read it and loved it. I read it and loved it. The leader of a multi-billion dollar company read it and loved it. Teaching complex lessons in a simplified manner is a great gift and Joshua Medcalf does just that in Chop Wood Carry Water.
  • 2 Chairs– This book might have made a greater positive impact on my life this year than any other book. 2 Chairs shares powerful stories in a way that only Bob Beaudine can tell them. But more important is that this book provides a tried and true strategy of building a relationship with God and finding out what He wants to do in your life each and every day. Beaudine knocks it out of the park with 2 Chairs. This is a book you buy for yourself and for your friends.
  • In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day– In this book, along with the next book on my list, you will learn great lessons about pursuing your dreams from an Old Testament scripture that you’ve likely never heard or skipped right over. Author and Pastor Mark Batterson is a master storyteller and inspirational genius.
  • Chase the Lion– Wow, wow, and wow. If you’ve ever read a book or heard a speech that made you want to conquer the world, then multiply that x 10 and you have Chase the Lion. This book immediately goes on my re-read list and will most likely be a once per year feast of dreaming BIG! Like it’s predecessor, In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day, Chase the Lion takes a seemingly obscure Old Testament story and shows you how awesome God is and what he can do in the life of a person willing to chase their dreams and honor Him.
  • The Compound Effect– Business mogul Darren Hardy has written a principle based guide to reaching your fullest potential in business and life. As you read through this book, you’ll be amazed at how small everyday decisions can turn into big game changing moves for your life. If you want to be successful, then do what successful people do.
  • Mind of the Athlete– My #1 sports psychology book of all time. Mind of the Athlete is a short and easy read with real life actions steps included. All throughout the book I was thinking, “I wish I would have known this information while I was competing and all of my athletes need to hear it.” I love this book so much that I’ve lent it out to several people and suggested to my wrestling team that they all buy it. Our team is also utilizing the Mind of the Athlete Program.
  • You Win in the Locker Room First– If you serve in any leadership role (we all lead someone), then this is a must read. Author Jon Gordon and NFL Coach Mike Smith teach a step by step strategy to build a great culture and help others be their absolute best. Coaches, this is one you need in your mental and physical library.
  • Extreme Ownership– Leadership and Discipline. Two real life heroes (aka Navy Seals) take you on a journey through the combat training and battles they endured along with the leadership lessons they learned along the way. Practical, real, and will make you want to get up at 4:30 am to take on the day! Seriously. Sidenote: Authors Jocko Willink and Leif Babin are two honorable men and the definition of tough.
  • Unashamed– This book is written by my favorite hip-hop artist, Lecrae Moore (aka Lecrae). Lecrae takes you through his life as a child, the struggles he endured and what it means to be a Christian in a secular world. It’s amazing how much I connected with this book personally and how my Faith was increased by books end. #116
  • Same Kind of Different as Me– Seriously, why hadn’t I heard of this book until now? I stayed up until almost 1 am reading this book because I couldn’t put it down. Based on a true story and soon to be a motion picture, Same Kind of Different as Me is a story for the ages. American history, humanity, and the Love that only God can provide are all wrapped into this wonderful story. Upon finishing the last page, I was sad that the book was over. Don’t read this book unless you are ready to be moved emotionally and spiritually.
  • The Wrestler– This book is not last on my list, it’s just one of the last books I read in 2016 and it sent me out with a bang! If you are a wrestler, wrestling coach, parent of a wrestler, or know wrestlers…then get this book. Author Michael Fessler was an excellent wrestler and takes you inside the mind of these gladiators as well as anyone has ever done it. Through his true stories, Fessler provides principles of success that can be applied on the mats right now. These principles can also be used off the mat to help with the match that really matters, the match of life. By the way, I have a few words in print in The Wrestler!

There you have it friends, my top books of 2016. Now pick some of them up and dig in to help create a better you in 2017!

God Bless,

Coach P


4 Point Friday

December 23rd, 2016

Greetings, my friends.

Each Friday,  I send out an exclusive email about 4 awesome things (aka points) I’ve experienced this week and would like to share.

My intention with these 4 points is to provide you with perspective, inspiration, useful information and hopefully some laughs.

So without further ado, here is your 4 Point Friday and Thank You for Reading!

Quote of the Week:

Popular social media post:

Coach Crowell Coaching Beyond the Victory  (This video reached over 3,200 people)

All the Feel Goods in One Video:

Sharing The Love – Puppies and Cute Kids Version

This month at Subaru of Wichita, we are in full blown Share the Love mode. So we have this cute video of a friend of ours sharing the LOVE with some puppies… it might be the best video you see all day! 🙂

Posted by Subaru of Wichita on Thursday, December 1, 2016

Sidenote: This is a video of my youngest son that Subaru of Wichita used in a commercial and set it to music. Who doesn’t love kids kissing puppies?

Time to Celebrate:

I love everything about Christmas and the New Year. Family, Friends, Gifts, Good Food, Time off from work, etc. Overall, I try to keep in mind that Jesus is the reason for the season and that’s the #1 reason to celebrate!

Below is a short story about the birth of Jesus, from a new perspective. The story was inspired by my 4-year-old son Luke while making sugar cookies for Christmas. If you have children, be sure to share this story with them and take advantage of the opportunity to teach them about the birth of our Savior!

Click here for Christmas Story

Please let me know any request you have and which of the 4 Points is your favorite. You can contact me at coachchadparks@gmail.com or send a tweet to @coachchadparks and put #4PointFriday in there too.

God Bless and Merry Christmas,

Coach P

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. -Proverbs 27:17

BONUS: Pick up your copy of The Wrestler by Michael Fessler today! This is an amazing book and must read for all wrestlers, coaches, and wrestling families. I also have a few words in there :).

The Christmas Chicken

The Birth of Jesus is one of the most spectacular days in the history of mankind. As we prepare to celebrate the birth of our Savior at Christmas, let us no forget the circumstances under which Mary delivered her beautiful baby boy.

Here my friends is the nativity scene from a perspective you’ve yet to read, but believe me when I tell you that it’s true… from a bird’s eye view.

The day was a normal day as normal days go.

I was sleeping in the hay, listening to the cold wind blow.

Next to me in the stable were my friends Sherman the sheep and Casey the cow.

In the far corner was Dale the Donkey sleeping next to the plow.

We were a peaceful lot and resting well when all the sudden that ship set sail.

There was a clanking, banging, and even a shatter.

We all woke up wondering what was the matter.

In a rush, in a hurry, they flew by in a blurry.

A woman and man, both hand in hand.

She laid on the ground and gave a great shout.

Then all of the sudden a baby came about.

The room seemed to freeze, yes everything froze.

This was no normal baby, though he had ten fingers and ten beautiful toes.

The man stood in awe and the women began to cry as their gorgeous baby boy let out a long sigh.

All at once the brightest light we’d seen by far, shown through the windows as a glorious star.

Then Shepard’s entered the room to view the baby boy, each praising God with hearts full of joy.

I know this all to be true as I saw it with my eyes.

So did Sherman the sheep and Casey the cow, along with Dale the Donkey standing next to the plow.

We were simply stable animals trying to rest that cold day when to our surprise a majestic baby was born on our hay.

I believe they called him King Jesus, yes that’s what I heard.

Take my word for it as I’m a spectacular bird.

I am the Christmas Chicken and this story is true.

It has been a glorious honor to share it with you!

A Sugar Cookie in Honor of The Christmas Chicken.

God Bless,

Coach P

* Read about the birth of Jesus here: Luke 2:1-20

P.S.  The story of The Christmas Chicken was inspired by my son Luke. He declared while making Christmas cookies that the Christmas Chicken is an integral part of the Christmas Story. According to Luke, the Christmas Chicken was in the stable with Jesus on the day of our Saviors birth.

4 Point Friday

In the vein of Bestselling Author Tim Ferris, I’m going to start sending out a weekly post about 4 cool things I’ve discovered that particular week. Tim’s famous email series is called 5-Bullett Friday and it’s always entertaining to read. I’m not a big Tim Ferris fan one way or another, but I do like his 5-Bullett Friday’s. They are short, to the point, and interesting.

Why am I going with 4 points… It feels right (palms up with shoulder shrug.) These 4 points will only be received via email and will not be posted to social media. People can share them on social media, but I’ll only send them to those who have signed up to receive my email newsletter. My intention with the 4 points is to provide you with perspective, inspiration, useful information and hopefully some laughs.

So without further ado, here is the first installment of 4 Point Friday….

  1. What I’m Reading: I’ve just finished reading Mind of the Athlete by Dr. Jarrod Spencer. This is one of, if not the top sports psychology books I’ve ever read. All throughout the book I had two reoccurring thoughts: “Every athlete on my team needs to hear this information.” and “I wish I knew these things when I was competing.” If you know athletes, coaches, or parents of athletes, then suggest this book to them or even better, buy them a copy as a gift.
  2. Quote of the Week: “Difficulties show a person’s character. So when a challenge confronts you, remember that God is matching you with a younger sparring partner, as would a physical trainer. Why? Becoming an Olympian takes sweat! I think no one has a better challenge than yours, if only you would use it like an athlete would that younger sparring partner.” -Epictetus (Thank You, Michelle Terry for sharing this quote with me.)
  3. My most popular social media post this week: One time in college I just stopped combing or fixing my hair. It was winter and I’d wear a stocking cap to class. Take it off during class and then back on. Each day I’d walk into wrestling practice and my hair was all over the place (my hair sticks straight out all over my head until it gets long enough to weigh it down). My Aunt Paula calls it heckba hair (not sure why .) One day Chas Thompson apparently had enough. He said, “What is going on with your hair? Have you just given up on life or what? You never fix it and it’s always a mess.” I told him I didn’t care and just let it do whatever. But guess what, I started fixing my hair the next day. Not because I was told to, but because Chas was one of my best friends and I respected him. Real friends don’t just “Accept You the way you are.” The grocery clerk will do that much. Real friends hold you to a higher standard in life. They challenge you to be your best. Thank You, Chas for always keeping it real. It was only hair, but you cared enough to call me out on it. #respect #realfriends* Not sure why this memory just popped into my mind. But there is a lesson in everything.
  4. It just feels good: The video below had me laughing for hours and I hope it does the same for you. The white New Balance are just the icing on the cake my friends. The brilliant and oh so funny minds over at Advisors Excel created this video to provide the world with some Holiday cheer. The song is by music artist kj-52 and he also created it with humor in mind. Enjoy…

    God Bless,

    Coach P

    “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” -Proverbs 27:17

How Bad Do You Want It?

What is your dream? What is the mission in your mind and fire in your heart that drives you to embrace discomfort and battle with everything inside of you?

For you, the answer to those questions may have jumped out front and center. For others, their dream and mission may be as elusive as Sasquatch. Either way, if you want to succeed and reach your fullest potential, then you have to be willing to battle for it. You must be willing to go to extra lengths in order to become all that God has created you to be in this life.

Tucked away in ancient scripture is the story of Eleazar, one of David’s Mighty Warriors. In this short story (2 verses long) we see Eleazar in an epic battle scene, as is fitting for a Mighty Warrior of David. Three warriors, which include Eleazar, were in a fight with their nemesis the Philistines. It says that Eleazar stood his ground and attacked the Philistines until his hand grew tired and froze to the sword.

Now I don’t know if you workout or not, but I train pretty hard. I have been in workouts were my grip was so fatigued that my hand locked up around the workout equipment I was training with. I’ve had the same thing happen while carrying around a weedeater for 10 hours back when I used to do commercial mowing as a side job. I can tell you from experience that when your hand locks up while doing work, it’s just not fun.

This happened to Eleazar while he was fighting for his life and the livelihood of his people, not just doing a workout or working. What it tells me is that Eleazar was All-In. He was willing to do what needed to be done to complete his mission and achieve his dreams. Eleazar did not shrink back from the battle, the discomfort, or the fickle feeling of the moment. No, Eleazar was so committed that his hand froze to his sword. The man was not letting go of his dreams, no matter the circumstances or battles he faced.

Notice also that Eleazar ATTACKED his enemies. That’s right, it doesn’t say he defended himself and let life happen to him. No, Eleazar went on the offensive and decided to attack and live life on his terms. He had a mission and went after it full force. There is a distinct difference between living with a defensive mindset (letting life happen to you) and an offensive mindset (doing all you can to succeed).

So, what is your dream? What is the mission in your mind and fire in your heart that drives you to embrace discomfort and battle with everything inside of you?

Do you desire to be a great parent, run a business, write a book, or become a champion athlete? All of these are good and noble desires. All of these require the greatest effort you can imagine and then some. But, if you are All-In just as Eleazar was All-In, then you will be willing to do what needs to be done in order to complete your mission.

Mind you, a dream or mission without action is only a fantasy or wish. So today you must decide on real actions that you can take to attack the life you desire in your heart. You must decide to go on the offensive and then be willing to fight until your hand freezes to the sword.

Go to battle and work toward your victory today my friends. Do not settle for a life of complacency when you could be achieving a great victory in route to becoming all God has planned for you to become. Determine today to live in the manner of Eleazar and be Mighty in the eyes of our Lord!

“Next to him was Eleazar son of Dodai the Ahohite. As one of the three mighty warriors, he was with David when they taunted the Philistines gathered at Pas Dammim for battle. Then the Israelites retreated, 10 but Eleazar stood his ground and struck down the Philistines till his hand grew tired and froze to the sword. The Lord brought about a great victory that day. The troops returned to Eleazar, but only to strip the dead.”  -2 Samuel 23:9-10

God Bless,

Coach P

Game Changing Moves:

  1. Read 2 Samuel 23
  2. Write down a dream that God has placed in your heart.
  3. Write down 3 steps that you can take today in order to work toward fulfilling that dream.

What a Mess

Early this morning I walked into the family room of my home and took a seat on the couch. After sitting for a couple of minutes and sipping on my AdvoCare Spark, my eyes began to focus and my brain was waking up. It was at this point I noticed all the toys and blankets spread out across the floor causing a rather large mess.

Okay, normally a mess like this would cause me stress. I’ll admit, I’m sort of a clean freak and disorganization drives me bonkers (my wife might say it’s more than sort of.) But today, today was different. After looking at the remains of last nights Superhero, cars, and toy block party I didn’t feel stressed, upset, or frustrated. No today I heard that still, small voice say, “Embrace the mess. Enjoy these moments because one day you will want them back. There will be a time when your children are grown and you’ll desire a messy house caused by children enjoying the throes of  their youth.”

Upon receiving this revelation in my heart, I immediately felt at peace and also a little silly for all the times I’ve been upset by the messes my children leave behind. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still going to make them pick up after themselves, but I won’t freak because they left behind traces of a good time.

God also laid an adjoining message on my heart concerning today’s lesson. The message is this: Enjoy the stage that you are currently in.

I can only speak for myself, but I have a feeling you might experience something similar to me (as we are both human). Many times I find myself looking forward to what is to come. I am very driven and often focus on the next task or reaching a benchmark in life. This in and of itself is not bad, I actually believe it’s good. But where I slip up is in enjoying the moment. I far too often find myself moving forward and with passion, but forgoing any enjoyment in the current moment.

What I felt the Lord speak deep into my heart was that life is full of stages and people should embrace those stages. Some stages are great and others difficult, but all are part of the journey. With a little perspective, you and I can always look around us and find much to be grateful for right here and now.

I don’t know where you are at in your life currently, but wherever it is, then there you are. Since you are there anyway, doesn’t it make sense to enjoy it?

Today I want to encourage you to slow down, look around, and embrace the messiness of life. Find the good and take it all in. Look at those items or situations that typically cause you stress and see if you can’t view them from a different perspective. Let me give you a couple of examples:

  • You are stressed because the electric bill is through the roof this month. Be grateful that you have a home, you have lights, and you have the ability to control the temperature inside of your home.
  • You are stressed because your teenager isn’t following your rules. Be grateful that you have a child who is alive and possesses a strong will. That strong-willed personality trait will be helpful once it’s channeled in the right direction.
  • You are stressed because an injury is keeping you from competing in the sport you love. Be grateful the rest of your body is healthy, you have a strong supporting cast (pun intended), and you can improve mentally during this down time.
  • Etc., Etc.

No matter what stage of life you find yourself in today, proper perspective can and will make all the difference in how you react. Yes, even if you’re a clean freak and find yourself in the midst of a massive mess. 🙂

God Bless,

Coach P


Game Changing Moves:

  1. Write down one area of your life that you often find yourself upset or stressing over? Now take a few moments to think about and pray over that area. What alternative perspective can you adopt to change your thoughts and actions over the situation?
  2. Read Matthew 11:28-30. Now determine to turn over your worries and burdens to Jesus.



(This is a guest post by Coach Steve Wallace. Coach Wallace is the Head Boys Basketball Coach at Shawnee Heights High School in Topeka, KS. Before taking the reigns at Shawnee Heights, Coach Wallace was the Assistant Women’s Basketball Coach at Kansas University and Tennessee Tech University prior to his stint at Kansas University. Coach Wallace is married to his beautiful bride Ann and they have 2 young children that they are raising with all the love humanly possible.)


I remember when my dad first put a goal up in the backyard. He bought a hoop and a backboard. He built a goal post from extra wood he had at work for me. He put it up on the grass in the backyard, but before long the grass was gone. I played so much that it quickly turned to dirt. I hated when it rained because it was a mud pit, but I still played in the mud. I hated when it snowed, but I would shovel the snow and play in gloves. Man, I loved playing ball.

We all have a story, no matter what sport we love, where we can remember falling in love with it. Unfortunately, as we move along in our sport and get more competitive, we lose sight of that love. We worry more about starting, playing varsity, points, what summer team we play for, and college scholarships. We forget why we started playing altogether…FOR THE LOVE OF THE GAME.


The same thing happened to me. I worried about things that were out of my control. My focus was not playing for the love of the game but everything else. As you get older, you realize some of your shortcomings and wish you could go talk some sense into the 16-year-old version of you. So that’s what I want to do for you.

You all have heard, “enjoy it because it will go by fast” and most young people just roll their eyes. I did. I joined a men’s basketball league this fall. I realized I hadn’t played in a basketball game with officials, a clock, and score in over 10 years. That really hit me in the gut. I realized in that moment- #1 I’m old, and #2 time really does go by fast. It reminded me to do what you love, do it with love, and love every moment of it.

Love your dad for putting that goal up in the backyard.

Love your mom for always being your #1 fan.

Love your coach for helping you get better at what you love.

Love your teammates for pushing you and having your back.

Love the accomplishments of your teammates.

Love failing and then getting better at something.

Love the competition.

Love the sweat.

Love the locker room.

Love it all.

This list could go on and on. Don’t let the love pass you by. Someday you will join a men’s league and realize, “I should have played for the love because all those other things really don’t matter.”

Remember that kid that fell in love with the game. Block out all the noise and extras. Play like that kid in the dirt in the backyard on a rickety rim. He wasn’t worried about anything but playing for the LOVE!

Play for the Love,

Coach Steve Wallace


Burn Bright

(This is a guest post from Cody Garcia, the Head Wrestling Coach at Baker University. Cody is starting his second year at the helm of the Baker University Wrestling program. In his first year at Baker, he led the team to their best ever finish of 6th in the Nation. He also coached 2 individual National Champions in the process. As a wrestler, Cody was a 4-time All-American, 3-time National Finalist, and 2-time National Champion. He was also a 4-time Academic All-American and a member of 4 Team National Championships at the University of Nebraska-Omaha. Cody is simply one of the best college coaches in the Nation and is impacting everyone in his path in a positive manner. His passion is a bright light and beacon of hope for all to follow. -Coach P)

Ignite Your Passion

“Start a fire in my soul, fan the flame and make it grow….”

A while back, there was a discussion about wrestling and the question of if it was fun and, for that matter, if it was even supposed to be fun.  Fun is a strange and loaded word.  A lot of things can be “fun”.   Scooter hockey in elementary?  Sign me up.  Handball with the guys? I’m in.   Are these things fun?  Absolutely, but you don’t see many individuals committing their lives to becoming great at it.  I do happen to think wrestling is fun.  The process of becoming a great wrestler, though, can be better described as enjoyable.  Coach Denney (my legendary College Coach) would often say it as well, “…it’s not always fun, but you have to enjoy it.”  It’s love.  There will be days you have to go on commitment, but ultimately, you do have to enjoy the process and love what you do. Back to this later….

Anything that is worthwhile in life will be demanding.  Wrestlers are passionate about wrestling.  Why?  We are passionate because it is consuming; it is a lifestyle.  Passion is created by the investment in your goals and forged by your commitment to them.  Be it your faith, family, job, school, sports; have a consuming desire to represent greatness in all things you do.  Only then can you fulfill your purpose and make your impact.  Embrace that you are called to rise above mediocrity and the vulnerability that may come with that.  Expectations should never be limitations.  Non-committal attitudes drive me crazy.  Why are people scared of failure?  When you sell yourself short by not committing to your ability, your wins are still losses and regrets will eventually outweigh your potential fears of failure.  So go big and be passionate.

Burn Bright

“Let it burn so brightly, that everyone around can see….”

Each year we do personal mantras.  Deciding what you’re about and how you want to represent it can be a challenging thing. For an 18-year-old, that’s a daunting task.  You are finding your path. You have to develop and define your brand.  It’s crucial. For me, it comes down to how I intend to serve this group and serve things greater than myself.  My mantra for the last 2 years has been “burn bright”.

It goes back to passion.  Be so passionate in what you do, and how you do it, that it illuminates the sky.  The hotter the flame burns, the more brilliant and radiant the light will be.  It’s a burning desire to represent greatness.  It is an understanding that you may use more energy to light the way, but shedding light on potential and being a beacon of hope is a privilege and will always be worth it.


It can be dark out.  Distractions are constantly around you. Even as I am very intentional in separating from them, I am very aware of them. Society seems to be more tolerant of the distractions anymore.   I do think that those in the darkness are intrigued by the light, though.  That is exciting to me.  It’s hope.  We always need hope.  There is a lot of fog in the air, but the light will direct you.  Let your light shine and believe you can make a difference.  Know your light and protect it.

Protect your Flame

Back to the beginning…  A wrestler told his coach “It’s not fun anymore”.  Is it supposed to be?  I don’t know if it matters either way.  It’s passion.  It’s about love and enjoyment.  As I said, it’s all these things forged by commitment.

Most likely, this person was no longer devoted to the craft and its process.  You don’t fall out of love with things overnight. At some point, they became complacent in their purpose and too caught up with outcomes.  They became selfish and believed that the relationship owed them.  They viewed it as a sacrifice and that they were missing out.  They didn’t protect their flame.

You protect your flame by keeping it bright.  Continue to fuel it daily and fix your eyes on what matters.  It is about focusing on the right things, surrounding yourself with great people, and constantly aligning and adjusting to keep your flame in sight.  

You protect your flame by knowing the environment and knowing your flame.  This is something we talk about within the group.  If you’ve struggled with “distractions” and you feel like you’re not ready to be around those distractions, it’s probably not smart to go somewhere that is dark and windy.  That’s okay.  Build your flame up to the point where someday you have the confidence to enter the dark and pull people out of darkness with your light.   

Again, anything worthwhile is demanding.  It has to challenge you to change you.  We’re not only talking about wrestling.  It never really is, but realizing that wrestling gives you the mindset to attack anything that comes your way.  It’s easy to talk yourself out of loving something, but instead, choose to be invested in your purpose and motivated by your opportunity to be a difference maker.

Burn Bright,

Coach Cody Garcia

Get Off the Couch

Parents are charged to teach their children lessons that will help them navigate life’s journey. However, when parents pay attention, their children teach many lessons too.

Recently I was watching my favorite college football team (Boomer Sooner) on television and my children were playing in another room. Suddenly I could hear them arguing with increased intensity and the two older girls were yelling at their 4-year-old brother Luke. I walked into the room, picked up the little guy and said: “Come watch football with me.” As soon as we hit the couch Luke started crying and asking to go play. My response was that he could go back and play when he had calmed down and made the decision to be nice to his sisters.

After a few minutes, Luke was calm and itching to get off the couch and back into action. We had a quick talk and I let him go back in the other room to join his sisters and interrupt their short time of peaceful play.


Does this look like a guy that sits for long?

As Luke ran into the other room I had a moment of mental clarity that brought to light a lesson my son was teaching with his actions. Not the actions of fighting with his sisters, but the actions of foregoing a football game on television for real life activity.

How many people sit on the couch of life and watch others chase their dreams? How many people are more passionate abut their favorite team than they are about their own family? They may not say it or admit it, but actions speak and that’s a fact jack.

Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with watching college football or any other sporting event on t.v. I am a college football fan and will watch it any chance I get. But I refuse to watch others pursue their passions while I sit idly by and waste my life away. No, I instead choose to devote my time to my Faith, Family, and Mission. Football or anything else on television comes secondary.

So what about you? Do you have the passion and zeal of a youth that would rather get off the couch for real activity instead of watching others participate in life? If the answer is yes and your actions prove that to be true, then awesome sauce and great job. If the answer is no, then what must you do to change where you are currently to where you want to be?

Realizing it is a good place to start. People often only think as hard as they need to think, it’s human nature. So the awareness may not be brought to your mind until the issue is pointed out or triggered in some fashion. The next component is to make a decision. You see, change happens immediately. Results often take time, but change happens immediately with a steely mental decision. As soon as that decision is made, then actions must follow. You don’t even have to know exactly where to start, but start somewhere while your emotions are engaged.

My friend, today I encourage you to learn from the lesson taught by the young philosopher Luke. Get off the couch and get active chasing your dreams and put You in the game. This often requires evaluating your life and then getting real with yourself. I have to do this more than I’d like to admit, but it’s a necessary step to reaching the best version of oneself.

God Bless,

Coach P


Game Changing Moves:

  1. Take a few moments of alone time and get real with yourself. Answer this question honestly: “Am I doing all I can to pursue my dreams?”
  2. Read James 2:14-26. What does James say about taking action in this passage?
  3. Make a list of activities that you currently participate in that are stealing time from your family or dream. Which of these activities can you cut out for a short period of time or deem them as secondary only?
  4. Are you willing to change for your family or for you?